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[Content Warning- sexuality, sexual violence, child sexual abuse]
(description) Black/Brown/Red tattooed genderqueer person wearing glasses, off-the shoulder wine colored knitted top and long silver neckless. Sitting in front of a brown and silver lamp, grey curtains and wood panel wall, speaking to audience/camera.
When I learned about sex, umm, I actually didn’t learn about sex. I think the kind of sexual misinformation that I got was through my sexual abuse as a child around the ages above 7, 8, 9. SO I didn’t have any kind of concrete real information about sex or sexuality or any of it. This came later on in life when I was, um, through trial and error, experimentation, doing a lot of wrong things, and then educating myself later on, because it was necessary for my survival and my mental health.
(description) Black femme woman with up-do-wrapped locs, wearing a silver heart neckless, multi-colored top and long earnings. Sitting in front of a brown and silver lamp, grey curtains and wood panel wall, speaking to audience/camera.
When I learned about sex, it was actually kind of hard to pinpoint. Um, I do remember my mother giving me a book to read that had different people’s different body parts, and different thing around sexuality and your period and things like that. I think it was called “What is Happening to Me.” But other than that, my first experience was with my incest abuser and perpetrator.
(description) Korean woman with long dark hair and dark rimmed glasses, sitting in front of a white concrete wall with hanging x-mass lights above, speaking to audience/camera.
Um, I can’t pinpoint the first time, the first exact time, I learned about sex. I think for a lot of my childhood I was very disassociated from things because of so much trauma, so it’s hard to even remember what were some of the first times. I know that my friends introduced me to like ideas and concepts around sex. And that was like, you know, they would show me things or tell me things but I never remember being as present really, to like take it in like that. It just seemed like something that they were talking about, it didn’t seem like, I don’t remember connecting like “that is sex and sex is this thing.” Yeah, so, and then you know all the, like people would be talking about “good touch, bad touch”, people would be talking about “safe sex” things, but I don’t remember it really sinking in. Yeah.
(description) Black woman with long wine-colord nails, salt and pepper locs, wearing a sleeveless blue/grey/white top with yellow trimming. Wearing a silver ring, silver bracelets, one silver neckless and one black neckless sitting in front of a brown and silver lamp, grey curtains and wood panel wall, speaking to audience/camera.
I learned about sex when I was probably around 9 or 10. Um, there is a large difference between myself and my sisters. My mom was about 50 years old when I was about 10, so she pretty much did the “don’t be kissing on boy or you’ll get pregnant.” That’s the way she introduced that with my brothers and sisters. But she spoke about it with me at length and that helped me to understand what I had gone through my sexual abuse at age 5.
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